Tip of the Day: How to Spot a Liar

liar1. Start by observing how the person normally behaves.

Before you try to tell whether someone is lying to you, you have to get a sense of how he or she communicates in a normal, nonstressful conversation.

Talk about the Red Sox, or a friend from elementary school who found you on Facebook.

You need this baseline, because behavior that might indicate a problem, such as rapidly tapping a foot or using a lot of verbal fillers such as “um” and “well,” might simply be this person’s normal communication mode.

2. Listen carefully.

For example, if u ask, “Have you ever stolen from an employer?” “If the answer is, ‘I would never do that,’ that could be a signal,”

It is OK if the answer is “No, never,” as long as the word no is in there.

Body language is a good way to find hot spots. Driver uses the children’s song “Head, Shoulders, Knees, and Toes” as a way of breaking down observations of someone’s body to reveal that person’s true feelings.

 

© 2012 SAT Telecommunications Ltd.

Scroll to top